When to talk to your parents, even if it’s hard

Depressed teenagerHave you ever heard someone say this phrase: “seeing the world through rose colored glasses”? It is an old-time phrase that basically means that someone sees all things happy and cheerful like roses.

Most parents really work hard and do their best to keep the world happy and cheerful for their kids. Yet, sometimes tough things happen and disrupt the family at the most unexpected times. Then it is harder to be cheerful and happy. 

When tough things happen in life, it makes it really hard for kids to speak up for lots of reasons. Maybe they don’t want to think about it because it makes them sad, or they don’t know what to do to make it better, or they don’t want to upset their parents.  Things start feeling pretty gloomy and kids of all ages can feel depressed and discouraged.

What things could you do to feel better? Best friends are often the first person kids will go to way before they decide to talk to their parents. It’s a way of testing out their thoughts before putting them in action.

When to Talk to Your Parents

If you have a big problem and your friends can’t help you…now what? When should you tell your parents?  Are you worried about freaking them out or getting yelled at? Maybe…..or maybe it is just too hard to talk about it…to anyone.

I guess the tipping point for taking the risk to speak up should be your safety and wellbeing. If someone hurt you emotionally or physically, or violated you, or scared you, or threatened you…those are all good reasons to tell someone you trust…someone who would protect you. The Children’s Justice Center helps you to know when to report abuse and who to call to report abuse.  Youth Services also offers free counseling for youth and their families if you just need someone to talk to who won’t judge you or share your thoughts with anyone else.

Holding it inside does plenty of emotional damage and you don’t deserve that. So have courage! Everyone has it. And the more you use it, the more it works for you!


About slcjc

Hi! I work at the Children's Justice Center and love my job. It is great to make a difference every day. I was a therapist before I came to the Children's Justice Center and worked in hospitals, juvenile detention, and shelter care programs. Teens are my favorite age group because they are fun and tell it like it is. I have 2 amazing kids, a cool dog and 2 lazy cats. I am always up for an adventure and love to see the world. It matters to me that kids are safe, protected and supported to become who they were meant to be in life! Seize the day and make it your own!
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