How To Be A Better Friend

teen girls I was at a girl’s conference recently and one of the speakers talked about 5 ways to be a better friend.

1 – Get Thicker Skin.

In other words, don’t be so sensitive.  We all, at least at times, have had those moments when we think a friend is ignoring us or has slighted us in some way.  In the end though, the friend wasn’t ignoring us and didn’t diss us.  The fact of the matter is, in most cases,  that the friend didn’t see us and whatever we “thought” they said or meant wasn’t the case.  Ultimately, believe the best in others.

2 – Stop being a frenemy.

And yes, frenemy is actually a word.  The definition is: one who pretends to be a friend but is actually an enemy.  You know who you are; you’re the friend who when a “friend” succeeds at something outwardly you are happy, but inwardly you are ticked off at her success.  On the flip side,if she fails at something outwardly you are sad for her, but on the inside you are jumping for joy. So, either be a friend or don’t, but don’t be a frenemy.

3 – Be Real.  Another way to put it is be transparent.

Let your friends see the real you, not just what you want others to see.  In order to be a real friend you have to be real.

4 – Be loyal. 

Stand behind your friends through thick and thin. Don’t gossip about them behind their backs and don’t put up with anyone who does, especially when you know what’s being said is not true. If you give loyalty you will get loyalty. 

5 – Invest in the friendship. 

Put the time in. In other words, be there when you’re needed. It’s easy to be there when things are going well and its all fun and games, but it’s more difficult when the times are tough.

So, there you have it.  It really isn’t hard to be a good friend and to have good friends.  Surround yourself with those who have the qualities listed above and you’ll never go wrong.   

What do you think makes a good friend? Share your thoughts below.


About skywatcher7544

I am a therapist with SLCO Division of Youth Services. I have worked at Youth Services for over 18 years in one capacity or another. I currently do In Home Therapeutic Services and love it. I really enjoy working with teens and their families!!!
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